How to initiate a first kiss: Flirting styles and situations

A kisser’s guide to kissing

Flirting is like driving a car — sometimes, you need to ease into first gear, and other times you have to slam it into fifth. But let’s be real — whether you’re out to woo someone with a smooth one-liner or hoping for that magical first kiss, it all boils down to timing, intuition, and a bit of playful fun. I’ve tested my flirting gears on both men and women, and trust me — they work. It’s all about being aware of your surroundings, keeping things light, and knowing when to shift gears.

In this article, I’ll break down my “flirting gears” for you, complete with how to use them to transition to that all-important kiss. Let’s dive into this ridiculous and delightful world of social cues, smooth moves, and awkward pauses that might just end with you locking lips.

1. Stealth Mode: The Subtle Art of Savoring the Moment

Are you alone at a bar, scoping someone out like a detective on a stakeout? Welcome to Stealth Mode. This is when you observe from afar, taking mental notes like you’re Sherlock Holmes. What are they drinking? Who are they laughing with? Do they have a boyfriend? The key here is not to be a creep. Seriously, don’t mention you’ve memorized their order or how they smile only when sipping mojitos.

Instead, casually compliment them on something that shows you’re paying attention. “I noticed your bag — it’s really unique,” works way better than “I’ve been watching you for 20…